The reason why people seek out a Life Coach is that they are looking for someone who is able to motivate them, and if the Life Coach is worth his salt, the Life Coach can motivate and support in ways their client wouldn’t believe was possible.
My mission is simple; I want to point you in the right direction to help you to achieve your goals, but in order to be successful there is a degree of work that needs to be done on your end.
First and foremost, you must be committed to the process, which is easier said then done as it may require readjusting certain aspects of your life that may not initially feel comfortable in the beginning. Specifically, you may need to reassess and alter your current circle of friends, if need be. I’m not suggesting that you cut loose all your friends who may not understand exactly what you are going through, however it is important that your top tier, immediate “go to” confidants be those who are genuinely supportive and provide you with the accountability needed to make healthy decisions and keep you on track to attain your goals.
Together, we will determine who is currently in your life that truly comprehends where you are now, where you need to go, and has the ability to emotionally support you on the journey to getting there. Typically this is a spouse, a partner, a parent, or a sibling, but could also be a close friend, a peer, or co-worker. What’s important is that whoever this person may be, that it is someone you can communicate openly with, confide in, and trust completely. They must also be prepared and willing to provide you with the kind of support you need. They should know when you need to be pushed and when it’s time to back off.
It’s also important that they their role in this process is not to act as a taskmaster and delegate orders, but that they can make an emotional impact, holding you emotionally accountable for everything, as you navigate your situation. Open communication and empathy is key- this person should be strong and secure within themselves, while also possessing the kinds of qualities that continually inspire you to pursue change for the better.
Despite what the lyrics of Simon and Garfunkel say, (“I am a rock- I am an Island. A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries”), a desire for connection with an equal counterpart is an aspect of human nature.
A rock may not feel pain and an island may never cry, but humans do. No man or woman is ever really an emotional island. Humans have traveled together in packs since the beginning of time, and ever since early man discovered the act of hand holding, the need to feel a deep emotional connection and support from another person, especially in times of strife, has been genetically conditioned with in us all.
It doesn’t matter how independent you are, there comes a time in everyone’s life when they will need somebody to lean on (again- song reference. This time courtesy of Bill Withers).
I can help you find health, wealth, and happiness, but it’s also equally as important that you have others that will root for you in times of success, encourage you in times of self doubt and uncertainty, and give you a shoulder to cry on in times of distress. And don’t forget to remind them they are appreciated and thank them when you do succeed- because if you choose me for your Life Coach, trust me, you WILL SUCCEED.