I have a client who came to me because she couldn’t get to sleep. She worked as a lawyer in Manhattan and every night, she tossed and turned, and would end up being dead tired at work.
Her performance at work was suffering, and she began snapping at her husband and children.
The issue of dating is the perfect embodiment of what I have to offer my clients because it requires equal part hypnosis and life-coaching.
Let’s start with hypnosis. A lot of problems that emerge during the quest for a mate involve anxiety, low self-esteem/low confidence, and bad memories. These are mainly psychological issues that lead to behavioral problems — poor communication during dates, awkwardness, poor sexual performance and more.
Forgetting is commonly seen as a bad habit. There are times, however, that you simply have to forget because they kill the joys in your life. Of course, there’s never a guarantee that the worst memories won’t resurface out of nowhere. Still, that doesn’t mean you can’t decide to turn away. There is absolutely no merit in letting the past take over.
Remember: you have willpower. If you are having trouble getting ahead, because of failures from long ago, I can coach you on moving forward. During hypnosis, you and I will not waste time with regret but get to the present immediately: Where do you want to go now? Do you know how to get there and think you have or can get the means to do so? Which memories motivate you?
When we talk about dealing with loss, we have to mention one thing…Humans have a built-in means of adapting to loss already, and while oftentimes we never truly move on by forgetting, we can find a natural, healthy rhythm after a tragedy.
We’ve evolved to adapt to a life without a loved one, or else we wouldn’t be here – our ancestors would’ve cried to death. So that’s the first thing I tell my patients who come to me for grief counseling: “You already possess the inner strength necessary to resolve this pain.”
When we talk about healing someone with grief, we’re talking then more about a timing issue: we want to resolve our inner turmoil sooner than later so we can get back on track.
The hardest part of sticking to a diet is being on a diet. Having dealt with many people who wanted to lose weight through hypnosis, I know one thing: They all got what they wanted. And more.
They didn’t get fit miraculously through a fad, intense diet. But they didn’t get fit so slowly either that they had to force themselves to like the results when, honestly, they’re wishing they’d had them sooner. You know how that feels. Good things take time, but if it takes too much time, you start to wonder if that chunk of time went to waste. (Pun intended!)