When we talk about dealing with loss, we have to mention one thing…Humans have a built-in means of adapting to loss already, and while oftentimes we never truly move on by forgetting, we can find a natural, healthy rhythm after a tragedy.
We’ve evolved to adapt to a life without a loved one, or else we wouldn’t be here – our ancestors would’ve cried to death. So that’s the first thing I tell my patients who come to me for grief counseling: “You already possess the inner strength necessary to resolve this pain.”
When we talk about healing someone with grief, we’re talking then more about a timing issue: we want to resolve our inner turmoil sooner than later so we can get back on track.