When I started practicing in the early 80s, I blended hypnosis with life coaching. It was an unprecedented hybridization. But I believed that in an ever-changing world that was becoming increasingly complex and interrelated, we need to be flexible in fusing different methodologies. This is still a huge demand in NYC. Whether you’ve lived here for ages, all your life; or are settling in, you’re likely to know what I’m talking about!

Traditionally, hypnosis helps for very specific issues. In the modern age, the interrelated issues are impossible to ignore. With me, it is possible to consider the entire picture. For instance, hypnosis can help with cigarette smoking, but can’t tell you what you should do on a smoke-break with your boss. If he offers you a cigarette and tries to be chummy, what do you do? How do you bond? These are life-coaching questions. I will not dismiss them during your treatment – which, again, is highly individualized.

The point I want to get across is that if you are looking to get an advantage in the NYC jungle – or are having an overwhelming amount of trouble adjusting to the pressures of city life – in any way, I urge you to consider Clinical Hypnosis. Together we can figure out the exact causes of your anxiety, eradicate them through one of the most naturally effective methods out there. Learn more on my website! And don’t hesitate to get in touch with me about scheduling your first session.

If you’re a spouse debating whether to fight for your marriage or to divorce and start improving your lives separately, hypnosis can guide you towards a decision. As I always tell couples in therapy, you need to figure out: What do you want, given all the facts of where you are right now and how that might change should you decide to split? Are you both willing to deal with the mess I don’t know any divorce that wasn’t messy. The thing is, how messy does it get and what kind of mess is it; so again, figure it out: What’s the mess gonna look like and how big is it gonna be?

Personally, I have no bias towards one solution over the other. Most mediators are slightly biased toward maintaining marriage even if the husband and wife are clearly content to get a divorces. I, on the other hand, can totally grasp the sanctity of marriage and the adventure of a post-divorce life.

Even couples with awful chemistry and can’t stand each other possess the power to effect change with action. No couple is paralyzed — they might strangle each other in frustration, but they’re not paralyzed. So, if the two of you are feeling a certain irreconcilable tension in your relationship, if it’s just NOT happening for whatever reason, you need to know that whatever happens is in the palm of your hands. You don’t need me to tell you that.

What you do need from me, however, is assessment that gets to a point. The three of us will be working through emotional, biographical, familial, and economic situation in your marriage; until we understand what the mutual desire is between you and your spouse. That desire might be created as we find it, or it might simply be there waiting to be revealed.  Maybe one person is denying a part of himself, maybe one’s sexual needs aren’t being met and they’re mistaking that for lack of love, etc. Whatever it is, there will be a lot of stripping involved. Stripping of obstacles, of defenses, of false assumptions. The list goes on. Are you and your spouse confused on what to do, now that one’s got a foot out the door and the other wants to say “stay” but can’t?

Give me a call and start getting your act together before it’s too late. (212) 599-3195.

Life coaches are always talking about getting people on the “right track.” I’m not fond of the term because, first of all, there isn’t one track that suits a person but all kinds. How does one choose? What should one choose? A single life bends in so many different directions that the right/wrong track becomes irrelevant.

The main step is knowing about the track you’re on already. “Nowhere” is not a valid place to be or go. Then again, It isn’t easy to know what you’re doing as you’re doing it; just because you’re doing it doesn’t mean that you know what’s going on. And that’s all right. Why? Because the less we analyze and expect from the track we’re on, the easily it is to profit from the experience. Anxiety melts away whether or not there truly is anything to be anxious about.

Of course, I’m not diminishing the wisdom of personal assessment and goal setting. I am encouraging you to not get hard on yourself when the path you take doesn’t go your way; look at the other ones before you, or maybe behind you, and don’t fret about the time it takes to give them a shot. The time you took for the wrong shot was not time wasted. You can’t blame yourself.

Remember that I can’t know what the right track truly is for you. You do. I can help you identify that direction on on ou can no more expect a life coach to swoop down and determine the right track than you can expect a man to propose to a woman after only three minutes of knowing her. Life coaches don’t have magic wands—they harness the “magic” power we all have to make our own decisions, which lead to a better life.

I would avoid a life coach who, on the first session, is telling you what you need to do to become the person you want. In other words, any life coach who tells you what the right track is probably isn’t going to get you to where you want to be.

Call my office at (212) 599-3195, to get your life rolling. You won’t look back — unless that’s what you need to do in order to move forward.