Dealing With Death.

People surviving the death of a loved one should know: there is no order to which the stages of grief passes. Mourning is different for each person. The time you spend mourning is based on your relationship to the person you lost. If you had a wonderful relationship and interacted with your loved one until their passing, there is grief and loss, but there is no guilt. You will wish to have said and done more, but these feelings are quite common.images

For some, there will be mixed feelings about a persons passing. Maybe the person who passed was unkind or abusive and because of this, you harbor animosity towards his or her passing. Does death absolve the you?

Most people would say, “yes!”
I say, let’s be honest.

If you’re hurt because you never got an apology you knowingly deserved, acknowledge that pain. If you feel relief that your abuse is over but guilty for being at peace, acknowledge these feelings too! Keep in mind, the choice to remain angry becomes an internal cancer. You will end up a victim of your own doing if you allow anger to ferment for too long. Anger is not and will never be nullified by death. If the persons passing seems like the perfect time to let go, then do it! But do it for the emotional benefit of yourself because death holds no special atonement for a persons wickedness.

UnknownIf hatred is prolonging your grief and not allowing you to move on, please come see me. Bad mouthing the dead and internalizing such anger will not bring closure to your emotional wounds. It will not help you sleep at night. It might provide a moments worth of relief, but that will pass and guilt will come again. Hypnotherapy can help you let go. You can begin to assess your abusers actions and make a logical decision to no longer be controlled by them, even after they’ve passed.


Clinical Hypnosis for Anger Disorders

Everyone gets angry. At times, people crave the ability to feel rage, getting enraged at defaulting to what they consider is indifference. Very often anger will drive people to take necessary actions that advance their professional and personal lives. In fact, I’ve had clients come in wanting to learn how to get angry or angrier about challenges, if only to solve them. Otherwise, they just let those matters be. Yet ignoring problems don’t always make them go away. They might even get bigger.

People who have severe anger issues are likely inflicted with an emotional disorder. They are perpetually unable to control their outbursts, putting their lives and those around them at harm.

Want to know how to control your heated temperament before your emotion controls you? Prescription medication isn’t always the answer, though I’m willing to work in conjunction with a medical doctor if necessary.

Don’t let overwhelming anger turn into domestic violence, self-destruction, or professional disasters. Through my experienced combination of hypnosis and executive life-coaching, you can learn to take charge of your rage rationally.

Call my office if you’re interested in a session. (212) 599-3195.