As a Life Coach for over 35 years, specializing in Corporate Life Coaching and Executive Life Coaching, my clientele has run the gamut. From top CEO’s, to blue collar postal workers, to stay at home moms and dads, doesn’t matter who you are or what you do, everyone experiences stress or anxiety to one degree or another.
When that occurs, it’s common for people to get caught up in one’s emotions, so what is expressed can’t come out as clearly as one would intend, especially when there is the pressure of an imminent need or deadline lurking around the corner. When overwhelming emotions hinders the rational part of the brain, this has an adverse effect on one’s ability to communicate what it is they really want or need. How can someone be helped if they are vague about their needs? Furthermore, a lack of understanding from whom you are trying to communicate with leads to more frustration, often causing one to become curt or downright biting in expressing their needs. This can trigger an argument, as such aggressive presentation also causes others to feel less inclined to want to help you. Like the old saying goes, “You catch more flies with honey, then with vinegar”.
But pressure, stress, and anxiety can make it difficult to rationally get our point across. Though seemingly simple, effective communication is one of the most difficult skills to learn and utilize consistently.
I recently came across a great article by Dr. Carmen Harra, that broke down the methodology behind eloquent communication in 7 steps, followed by a breakdown of how such communication applies with all the different types of relationships in your life- from colleagues and bosses, to your best friend, to your romantic partner, even with yourself. Here is a link to the article:
I highly suggest you give it a read, as it is quite interesting and informative. While this article covers the basics of communication and is effective from a general perspective, I know that specific circumstances of one’s situations can make this easier said then done. If after attempting to apply these steps in your daily routine, you are still having difficulty communicating with others, then come to me for Life Coaching. I will provide you with the proper skills to apply these 7 steps to your life, and so much more. Make an appointment with me today. 212-599-3195.