Fighting Off Guilt.

Your relationship with guilt should be a healthy one. Guilt shouldn’t make you feel embarrassed or shameful. It should motivate you and correct you but not judge you. The greatest attribute about guilt is that it can be anticipated before any action needs to be taken. It urges you to think about the consequences of what you’re considering doing or will be saying. Not taking immediate reaction or retaliating does not mean that you’re a coward. guilt

An unhealthy relationship with guilt is like walking through a valley of eggshells and apologizing for every broken shell. It’ll make you so concerned for the wrong people around you that your own life will go un-lived. You should care for others but your thoughts and feeling matter also. Sometimes you’ll have to say no situations and people in life and you shouldn’t feel bad about that.

guiltI work with people that struggle with their overbearing feelings of guilt and shame. Some hold back from making extremely important life decisions out of fear for guilt that has not even taken place. Anything that keeps you from advancing or moving forward in life is something you have to let go of, regardless of the guilt that may or may not take place for having done so. Hypnosis is great for treating guilt prone minds because it diminishes the negative thoughts in your brain and helps you to think more rationally. This is helpful because it will help you to assess whether or not the guilt you’re feeling is necessary. If it is not, you’ll learn to cast the thought away and if it is, you’ll learn to spend less time torturing yourself and more time correcting your error.

What’s holding you back from making that final decision? What’s sitting so heavy in your heart that you cannot go about your daily life? Guilt doesn’t have to burden you, but if it does, come in for a session. I’d love teach you how to manage your guilt in a positive way.

Hypnosis for Bipolar Disorder

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Bipolar disorder may be a mysterious mental illness, but it isn’t shy. WebMD.com states that 5.7 million American adults are affected by this mental illness a year. Celebrities like Catherine Zeta-Jones and Demi Lovato have openly discussed both their struggle and the help they received for their bipolar disorder. Other celebrities like Kurt Cobain and Virginia Wolf suffered in silence until they committed suicide.

Bipolar disorder, also known as manic depression, is a mental illness associated with extreme mood swings. The emotional ups and downs of a bipolar episode are very harsh in comparison to normal feelings of happiness or sadness. A bipolar person will experience euphoric highs and devastating lows; these can last weeks or for years.

To learn about the several types of Bipolar Disorder, click here.

Treatment for bipolar disorder varies from person to person. Most people fighting their mental illness use a combination of prescribed medication and counseling to help level out their moods. Patients who adhere to their prescribed medication, but are interested in a different form of counseling, will find hypnotherapy as a great substitute. Hypnosis puts the body and mind in a state of relaxation that will aid in controlling the mood swings that come and go. This state creates stability for thoughts and feeling and helps to make the “ups” and “downs” of bipolar disorder less pronounced.

If you’ve been diagnosed with any form of manic depression, hypnotherapy can help. Suggestions planted while in a hypnotic trance will keep your mind from venturing into extreme emotions. Your mood swings do not have to dictate your life. With hypnosis you can live a happy, healthy, and successful life.

Before You Choose Divorce, Consider Hypnotherapy.

Before discussing divorce with your spouse, consider hypnotherapy as an alternative to couples counseling.

Marriages experience rough patches, or two, or four while on their way to marital bliss. The key is to not give up at the first or second or fourth sign of trouble. There may be tension and arguments filing your home right now, but with patience and proper guidance, couples can rediscover the the love that lead you down the aisle on your wedding day.

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Hypnotherapy for marriage counseling helps in the following ways:

  1. It rebuilds confidence and trust. Your husband may have forgotten your 5th anniversary and he may have forgotten to pick up the milk on the way home and thus, in a state of anger, you emasculated him with harsh words. As a result, you’ve developed an inability to believe your spouse can be trusted with the simplest tasks and in return, your partner starts to develop animosity and stress every time he or she is asked to do something. If this confidence and trust isn’t restored, it will affect the way you view your spouses compatibility and capability in loving you and providing for you.
  2. It strengthens communication. They say communication is key. A marriage with open lines of communication will be a successful one. Couples need to be open to expressing the things that hurt, the things that make them happy and the things they value differently. Not discussing these things will keep individuals in a place of perpetual heartache, crippled by harboring their resentments and anger inside. Your spouse cannot be held accountable for the things you fail to address. Furthermore, are you really angry at your partner or at yourself? Is the frustration you’re projecting meant for you for not measuring up or feeling inadequate?
  3. It will help you rediscover the reason why you fell in love in the first place. Regardless of how you may feel about your husband or wife in this current moment, at one time you loved them with a blind eye. You loved them enough to overlook their flaws and fell in love with them for who you became when you were with them. Somewhere inside, that love still exists. Love is a verb; it is an action; it is a choice we make every morning. Hypnotherapy will help you exercise that choice with full confidence in good spirits.

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The movie Stardust has this great line, “So, yes, I know that love is unconditional. But I also know that it can also be unpredictable, unexpected, uncontrollable, unbearable and, well, strangely easy to mistaken for loathing.” If you feel like your spouse has failed you, the loathing you’re experiencing may be disappointment. You may feel like they’re always falling short of loving you the way you expect to be loved. We have to realize that just because our needs are not being met the way we want them to be met, that does not mean that your partner is not trying his or her best. I’m here to help you discover what you want and to help you express the wants in positive ways to further strengthen your marriage.

Jealousy, An All Consuming Fire.

People welcome jealousy into their lives, without intending to. They see something they really want and envy that which isn’t theirs. They acknowledge their want of it and, in positive instances, convert it into self-motivation.

tumblr_nqbkpunYAi1u7jt09o1_r1_1280On the other side of the spectrum, some see something they want and experience resentment because it isn’t theirs. Their jealousy never forms into self-motivation. In fact, it becomes an all consuming fire. Their negative thoughts grow fixated on the things they don’t have, magnifying it to something incontrollable and bigger than themselves.

This is so dangerous. It affects relationships, careers, emotional and mental health, and it can really cripple your life.

Jealousy develops when we start comparing ourselves to others. I always tell my clients that we are all on our own journey. We meet people, we invest, we make some U-turns but ultimately, no one else is living the life we individually get in this lifetime. You have to get to a place where separating fact from fantasy is possible, where set goals are met, and where jealousy propels you to be proactive. As I life coach, I am continually engaging in hearing your life story. We all are so special in our own way.

 

Self-Medication Turned Self-Mutalation.

Addiction isn’t a pretty word. It’s, unfortunately, so often visually associated with junkies and emotionally tied to rebellion. Compassion is a helping hand never fully extended because, let’s be honest, assumptions keep us hesitant to fully committing ourselves to helping those who can’t help themselves.

In early years of development, our frontal lobes aren’t fully formed. This means all we know is adopted from the environment surrounding us. If those who influence us have unhealthy ways of coping, we might also. tumblr_static_filename_640_v2Addiction, contrary to what is thought, can be a learnt behavior. In a family where words are kept behind glasses of Bourbon, there’s a chance drinking could occupy the space reserved for conversation. Drugs are used for coping with the stress of family, work, identity, and everyday life. Addictions are a physical manifestation of an inner mewing. For many addicts, the use of drugs was a form of self-medication, but mutated into self-mutilation.

Some addictions aren’t even drug based. There can be addictions to sex, love, compulsions, and gossip. Imagine the inability to keep a secret. Addictions are more psychologically than neurologically rooted. Meaning they’re more mind than brain based. Compulsions are usually neurological. I have had tremendous success integrating Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy through neuroplasticity, but it’s important to identify the underlining irritations. So many problems can be solved and resolved with hypnosis.