Jealousy, An All Consuming Fire.

People welcome jealousy into their lives, without intending to. They see something they really want and envy that which isn’t theirs. They acknowledge their want of it and, in positive instances, convert it into self-motivation.

tumblr_nqbkpunYAi1u7jt09o1_r1_1280On the other side of the spectrum, some see something they want and experience resentment because it isn’t theirs. Their jealousy never forms into self-motivation. In fact, it becomes an all consuming fire. Their negative thoughts grow fixated on the things they don’t have, magnifying it to something incontrollable and bigger than themselves.

This is so dangerous. It affects relationships, careers, emotional and mental health, and it can really cripple your life.

Jealousy develops when we start comparing ourselves to others. I always tell my clients that we are all on our own journey. We meet people, we invest, we make some U-turns but ultimately, no one else is living the life we individually get in this lifetime. You have to get to a place where separating fact from fantasy is possible, where set goals are met, and where jealousy propels you to be proactive. As I life coach, I am continually engaging in hearing your life story. We all are so special in our own way.


Hap·py /ˈhapē/ Adjective 1. 
Feeling Or Showing Pleasure Or Contentment.

Unhappy people are easy to recognize. They share a common lack of identity, path, and/or aspirations. I’m not talking about “the late bloomer”. We all have that neighbor with a 26-year-old son who’s been trying to “find” himself since graduating college.

Unhappy people are unhappy because they aren’t trying to find themselves. They actually believe it when their mammal brains, the brain we’re born with, tell them that they are meant and designed for unhappiness.

imagesSome people are unhappy because of a bio-chemical imbalance. Somewhere down the line, they’ve compromised themselves, or they’ve entered a structure (relationship, contractual agreement, or professional position) that has forced them to live a life that’s contrary to their inner self. These people could potentially suffer from mild, chronic, or acute unhappiness. Chronic unhappiness potentially directs its host to a life of avoidance by means of addiction while acute unhappiness forces its host into a world of depression.

But, unhappiness is not hopelessness.

Action must be taken to help pinpoint the root of unhappiness in your life. Figuring it out is half the battle. Could it be that you’re still holding on to a past hurt? Failing at the life plan someone else has made for you? or listening to the negativity of your mammal brain? Believing that you can move from where you are to where you want to be is vital. With my help, I can help identify what’s preventing you from moving forward in your rich and meaningful life.

Experience–dependent neuroplasticity, the part of our brain that learns from our experiences, forms our personality when in the beta and gamma state. This means we can also reorganize, and, as a result, change our personalities. So long as what’s being changed is philosophically and truly embraced an entire person can be turned around. The goal is not to get you to be someone else, but to get you to your very unique self.

Clinical Hypnosis Versus Recreational Hypnosis

In a city as rife with leisure activities as NYC, you probably wonder if hypnosis is one of them. Can Clinical Hypnosis be used recreationally? The answer is: Absolutely not! This doesn’t suggest that our sessions will be dry. If that were the case, I doubt I’d have such a high rate of treating people (from Fortune 500 executives to down-and-out twenty-year-olds struggling through post-college anxieties) successfully for 37 years. And counting!

Under extraordinary relaxation, you will also be fully conscious that every second is invested in a practical, long-term outcome. The point, on the whole, is to gain a strong sense of mental control rather than of being controlled. You do not “lose yourself.” You discover, identify, and improve.

Recreational hypnosis, on the other hand, often leads to accepting – plus taking pleasure in – the loss of self-control. This is virtually the opposite of what I’ll be encouraging you to accomplish! Although recreational hypnosis has intense sexual allure and entertainment value, popularly incorporated in BDSM; the practice, from the perspective of Clinical Hypnosis, is closely related to a self-destructive disorder.

Bottom line: The hypnotherapy I provide is grounded in scientific principles, involving the concept of neuroplasticity and the strategies of rational cognitive behavioral therapy. Plenty of intuition is included – my own unique personality, for instance, in relation to yours – that renders treatment stimulating and ultimately transformative. You won’t find a better Clinical Hypnotist in NYC.

Call my office at (212) 599-3195 to inquire about price rates and scheduling.