Jealousy, An All Consuming Fire.

People welcome jealousy into their lives, without intending to. They see something they really want and envy that which isn’t theirs. They acknowledge their want of it and, in positive instances, convert it into self-motivation.

tumblr_nqbkpunYAi1u7jt09o1_r1_1280On the other side of the spectrum, some see something they want and experience resentment because it isn’t theirs. Their jealousy never forms into self-motivation. In fact, it becomes an all consuming fire. Their negative thoughts grow fixated on the things they don’t have, magnifying it to something incontrollable and bigger than themselves.

This is so dangerous. It affects relationships, careers, emotional and mental health, and it can really cripple your life.

Jealousy develops when we start comparing ourselves to others. I always tell my clients that we are all on our own journey. We meet people, we invest, we make some U-turns but ultimately, no one else is living the life we individually get in this lifetime. You have to get to a place where separating fact from fantasy is possible, where set goals are met, and where jealousy propels you to be proactive. As I life coach, I am continually engaging in hearing your life story. We all are so special in our own way.


Hap·py /ˈhapē/ Adjective 1. 
Feeling Or Showing Pleasure Or Contentment.

Unhappy people are easy to recognize. They share a common lack of identity, path, and/or aspirations. I’m not talking about “the late bloomer”. We all have that neighbor with a 26-year-old son who’s been trying to “find” himself since graduating college.

Unhappy people are unhappy because they aren’t trying to find themselves. They actually believe it when their mammal brains, the brain we’re born with, tell them that they are meant and designed for unhappiness.

imagesSome people are unhappy because of a bio-chemical imbalance. Somewhere down the line, they’ve compromised themselves, or they’ve entered a structure (relationship, contractual agreement, or professional position) that has forced them to live a life that’s contrary to their inner self. These people could potentially suffer from mild, chronic, or acute unhappiness. Chronic unhappiness potentially directs its host to a life of avoidance by means of addiction while acute unhappiness forces its host into a world of depression.

But, unhappiness is not hopelessness.

Action must be taken to help pinpoint the root of unhappiness in your life. Figuring it out is half the battle. Could it be that you’re still holding on to a past hurt? Failing at the life plan someone else has made for you? or listening to the negativity of your mammal brain? Believing that you can move from where you are to where you want to be is vital. With my help, I can help identify what’s preventing you from moving forward in your rich and meaningful life.

Experience–dependent neuroplasticity, the part of our brain that learns from our experiences, forms our personality when in the beta and gamma state. This means we can also reorganize, and, as a result, change our personalities. So long as what’s being changed is philosophically and truly embraced an entire person can be turned around. The goal is not to get you to be someone else, but to get you to your very unique self.

Self-Medication Turned Self-Mutalation.

Addiction isn’t a pretty word. It’s, unfortunately, so often visually associated with junkies and emotionally tied to rebellion. Compassion is a helping hand never fully extended because, let’s be honest, assumptions keep us hesitant to fully committing ourselves to helping those who can’t help themselves.

In early years of development, our frontal lobes aren’t fully formed. This means all we know is adopted from the environment surrounding us. If those who influence us have unhealthy ways of coping, we might also. tumblr_static_filename_640_v2Addiction, contrary to what is thought, can be a learnt behavior. In a family where words are kept behind glasses of Bourbon, there’s a chance drinking could occupy the space reserved for conversation. Drugs are used for coping with the stress of family, work, identity, and everyday life. Addictions are a physical manifestation of an inner mewing. For many addicts, the use of drugs was a form of self-medication, but mutated into self-mutilation.

Some addictions aren’t even drug based. There can be addictions to sex, love, compulsions, and gossip. Imagine the inability to keep a secret. Addictions are more psychologically than neurologically rooted. Meaning they’re more mind than brain based. Compulsions are usually neurological. I have had tremendous success integrating Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy through neuroplasticity, but it’s important to identify the underlining irritations. So many problems can be solved and resolved with hypnosis.

How Does Hypnosis Happen?

A popular question people have when inquiring about hypnosis is, “What’s the process like? What’s going to happen to me?”

Remember, nothing is going to happen to you. You are in charge, conscious, and your own person the whole time. As for the process:..

Hypnosis is not a one-size-fits-all type of treatment. I cannot emphasize this enough. I tailor the treatment based on what you and I discuss about your life.  The first session is mainly devoted to laying the background so that, on the second session, I can employ the most client-specific induction as possible.

During hypnosis, you recline on a couch in my darkly-lit office so as to maximize your physical comfort. Your eyes will be closed and you will have taken any sips of water necessary. You are at your peak comfort level and one hundred percent relaxed. Great thing is, you’re not asleep! I walk you through a guided meditation. In a calm voice, I suggest you imagine certain things (exercising your mind to make new associations between experiences and emotions). It lasts about half an hour, and when it’s over, you will definitely be drowsy. However, you will still be alert – maybe more so – and self-possessed, with a subconscious that has been tweaked for the better. The changes are cumulative and permanent.

Interested in Hypnosis in NYC? You must be! There’s tons more to learn that can’t be put in writing alone. Give me a call at (212) 599-3195.

Strengthening Self-Confidence via Clinical Hypnosis

To supplement my recent post about gaining physical attractiveness through hypnosis, I want to make sure you remember the following notion. Although it is desirable and advantageous to behave confidently regardless of any weakness, there is the danger of relying blindly on confidence solely.
Ask yourself: Are you using confidence as a crutch or an excuse to ignore (or at worse, deny) issues that you know you are capable of solving for the benefit of both yourself and those around you?
To secure your self-confidence, you initially need to identify which of your problems are within your control – problems that, once solved, will give you reason to be proud.
Here is a brief list of what I specialize in:

By “specialty,” I mean a category of difficulties that I have had a 95-100% success rate in treating.  Practicing in NYC for almost four decades, you will not find another therapist like me.
Neuroplasticity is a very complex science to apply, but I worked hard to make it the foundation of the Clinical Hypnosis I provide. There is much, much more to learn! I’m here if you need me. As always, feel free to contact my office at (212) 599-3195.